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The Law of Attraction movement is the belief that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into someone’s life. A central concept of the movement is to lớn ‘act as if you already have it.’ This in itself is fine & is not too different from the notion of visualizing your future successes và achievements in an attempt khổng lồ manifest the behaviors necessary to lớn get you there. Faking it for the right reasons can change you for the better, but getting it wrong can create all kinds of problems with trust & transparency. So, how vì chưng you know when it’s safe to vì so? Faking behaviors, yes. Faking competencies, no.
Many of us would like to improve some element of our character or personality that we feel might be holding us back. Perhaps be more confident, disciplined or ambitious. If we can clearly identify what that is, we can start by changing (forcibly) our behavior with the goal of having it become more natural over time.
One of the more common issues that many people struggle with, for example, is a lack of confidence. As you grow your business or advance your career, at some point you will likely have todeliver a presentation to a room full of people, khổng lồ pitch an idea, a sản phẩm or khổng lồ raise money. Even though you might know your material backwards, if you’re not naturally confident in a situation lượt thích that you can still feel nauseous for hours in advance. There is only one way lớn get through it – push yourself to bởi it anyway. Swallow your fear, stand up và deliver your message. In truth, unless you completely fall apart no one will even know how nervous you were at the time because you acted as if you felt otherwise.
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The same is true for those who are not natural extroverts. The idea of meeting và talking to new people is abhorrent và frankly they’d be more at ease on a dentist’s chair. But hovering at the side of a room hoping no one will notice you is not going lớn improve your odds of success. Instead, force yourself lớn act as if you’re not aghast at the thoughts of forced conversations, put on a smile và say hello to lớn someone. Eventually you’ll figure out that a lot of the folks in the room feel the same way you do about these situations. It won’t get easier immediately, but it will over time. You may never love the idea of engaging with new people but you can certainly learn lớn hate it less.
So, when is it not ok to giả it? When the ‘it’ refers khổng lồ your bộ vi xử lý core skills or abilities. You can’t feign competence like you can confidence. The unfortunate truth is that simply wanting lớn be better at something isn’t going khổng lồ make the slightest difference — you either know how or you don’t. This is where faking it crosses over to lớn the dark side and suddenly you’re lying. You can’t pretend to be fluent in a foreign language if you can hardly string a sentence together. You can’t tell an investor that you have exceptional financial acumen if you can barely work excel. You can’t tell a prospective customer that your product will solve their problem if it won’t. Don’t lie about your, or your company/product capabilities because if you do & you get ‘found out’ then you’ve just lost that person’s trust.
If you have a deep desire to change or improve something about yourself & you giả that behavior with conviction in order lớn get there, then eventually the power nguồn of habit will kick in. Just believe fully in yourself, your ability to lớn change and the reason you’re doing it in the first place. As Sophie Kinsella said, ‘If I behave as though this is a completely normal situation, then maybe it will be…’
I’m the founder of Smigin, a mobile phầm mềm for travelers who don’t speak the language. Building a startup from scratch is an exercise in humility & madness. There were many lessons learned the hard way, but the experience has been invaluable. As an entrepreneur, I strongly believe that there are no new mistakes & I’m passionate about sharing knowledge, insight và advice with other entrepreneurs in the hope of avoiding some of the pitfalls.